Friday, July 8, 2011

When you Least Expect it!

 The Biker-1976
Just when you least expect it someone enters your life and changes everything. How amazing that life gives us these wonderful gifts. In just one year I have regained a daughter and son, and as if that was not enough, my life has been enriched by a wonderful man I met in this blogging community who has become like a brother to me. There are all kinds of families today, the standard mom and dad has been replaced by the non-traditional ones. You know the ones I am talking about. My surprise was that when my son contacted me I decided to see if I could locate his father. After 35 years, Facebook did it again with just one simple search. There he was, a little older but the same face. There were many questions going through my mind. Should I tell him that the son he had given away for adoption had contacted me looking for his family? Would he want to know? My son (the Musician) only asked for a picture of him, would he want to know more? Tapping my fingers first on my desk, I moved them to the keyboard and started writing to my ex, who I will call the “Biker” from now on.

The memories came flooding back to me, the memories of first love. The joys and the pain that went along with it and the betrayal I eventually felt. He left and joined the military just a few months before our son was born. He was nothing but a confused kid himself and certainly not able to start a family. So here 35 years later, just a ghost from the past, I wrote him. Not exposing any names, this is how the conversation went:

 ME:   Hi Biker, I am not sure if you are the Biker I am looking for but If you knew a Siv xxx which is my maiden name, back around 1976 I hope you will contact me. Have you ever heard of Lutheran Social Services? There is a young man that contacted me which you may or may not be interested in. No strings, no pressure. Let me know.

 BIKER:  Hi Siv! Yes I'm the Biker from 35 years ago. How wonderful to hear from you!
Yes I remember Lutheran Social Services. They handled the adoption of our son XXX. I am interested, have been for many years.

ME: They contacted me yesterday and he is reaching out. Are you interested? He lives in XXX and I have his name if you want. I have not told him your name but he asked if I had a picture of you and if you were on Facebook. I thought it would be best to contact you before I gave him any information. He is happy and does not want anything except to know where he came from. I think both his adoptive parents are dead now and he has no brothers or sisters. He seems like a really sweet kid. Let me know if I should tell him who you are. This is all new for me too.

BIKER: Yes...Facebook is amazing. Yes I am interested and would like to know more.

So that was the beginning. Since then we have all gotten to know each other through Skype. The Biker and I are becoming good friends; we put the past behind us and look forward to the future. Another piece of the puzzle that makes up my unusual and very lucky heart is in place. They will meet for the first time in August, but today is a very special day for the Musician, the Artist and the Traveler. They will meet tonight for the first time, and while I am sitting on the sidelines for now, I share in their excitement. More stories on this adventure will come later.



17 comments:

Elisabeth Hirsch said...

This is soooo exciting! I can not wait to find out how tonight will go. I'll be praying that everything will go perfectly. I'm so glad everything's fitting into place for you. Cade and I love reading about your life. We both think you're awesome!

Craziness abounds said...

Holy hell! You have lived a very full and interesting life haven't you? Are you nervous about any of this? I'm praying for you and yours and keeping my fingers crossed it will be a wonderful reunion. When do you get to meet them all face to face?

Karen Walker said...

Siv, there's a book here, you know. It's such an amazing story. I am so so happy for all of you.
Karen

Susan Kane said...

What a circle life makes! Wow. I want to know what will happen, what happens, and how you are. I love your blog, and by extension, feel friendship with you. God bless.

Hart Johnson said...

This just keeps getting more amazing. I've loved reconnecting with people on FB, but none of the relationships have this kind of fee.

Hart Johnson said...

Oops, that last word should be weight--- not sure where my brain is...

KarenG said...

This just keeps getting better and better. And I repeat what Karen says above!

GigglesandGuns said...

These posts are all so beautiful and fascinating. How blessed you all are.

Geoff Maritz said...

Hey Siv. Popped in to say Hi and what do you know, I find a very touching story. My ex only met her mother when she was 51. 35, not too bad, all of you have time, that is very very very good. Best wishes to all of you, love Geoff.

Pearl said...

Ah, Siv! What a great story! Am looking forward to the next chapter...

Pearl

McKenzie McCann said...

That's so great. It's AMAZING how the internet connects people. This is an example of the only reason I don't think Facebook is just a crock of nonsense. It can actually do some good, apparently.

Susan Oloier said...

Siv, this is such an absolutely touching story you have. I truly am moved. I think you should keep a journal of the happenings. How very exciting for you!

shelly said...

This is a great story. Sad, too. It must've been hard for you. I'm sorry but glad things are coming full circle for you.

Alleged Author said...

I hope this is the start of a wonderful new chapter in your story.

Hilary said...

Hi Siv .. you are experiencing something wonderful and I am so pleased for you - I hope it works out fully the way you would like - all of you would like. Communication is beautiful when it's like this -- with many thoughts and happiness - Hilary

Michael Di Gesu said...

How could I have missed this? I am touched. Sis, you life seems to be traveling in full circle. How wonderful to tie up lose ends after all these years. You are all a family again. How exciting and wonderful for all of you.

Thank you for including me.... I means the world.

Bro

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Siv .. these connections with each and everyone of the family - even if displaced for many years .. are just wonderful to read ..

Just lovely - and I'm so pleased for you .. cheers Hilary