Tuesday, February 14, 2012

My Darling Someone

Not so very long ago a friend of mine was talking about writing his profile for an online dating service, "just in case." Now I know that he is happily married and was not really planning on using any such service, but the thought of him ever having to join the "dating game" terrified him. I don't blame him. Being married for many years is nothing short of a miracle. Even couples getting married seem to be a rare thing. There are more obituaries in the papers than wedding announcements. I have been thinking a lot about love lately, not surprising considering the time of year it is and the date on todays calendar. Love is starting to look like fast food. Online dating, and flirting in a make believe world through an avatars eyes is an easy hook up. Look around you; chances are that you know at least one couple that has met through the screen of "Data Matchmaker." I don't know, maybe this is a good thing. Maybe falling in love has become nothing more than a processor, and when the thrill is gone another model comes along. Has the world got a shortage of romance, are we running out of love? Do young people even know what love is? So I sat myself down and decided to write a letter to my unborn grandchild.

My darling someone,

Close your eyes and know that I have been thinking about you even before you were born. You are only a dream of mine today, but someday maybe these words will find you in a real world, whether I am there with you or not. There is so much that I would like to share with you; time, places, people, things, feelings and thoughts. A tapestry of everything that is important to me. Trust me; take my hand and I will show you what love is made out of. Its fabric is the most important thing I could ever share with you. There is a place inside your heart where all things are possible, where dreams are born and courage is found. You could get there without me but you could never get there alone. 

Every day there are so many discoveries to make, some grand some rather simple. It is the simple things in life that tend to please the most. Feel passion in the things in life that give you pleasure and you will find them everywhere. In the sounds of day and night, pleasure is laughter when you hear children playing, the birds singing, the wind in the trees, the rain against hot pavement, a fire crackling. Pleasure is love pressed into passion. The silent sounds of night such as soft moans, or the gentle humming of utilities and the even breathing of the body next to you in bed. Pleasure is the unexpected kiss and the way your lover reaches for your hand. It is the smile from a stranger a letter from a friend, the way a puppy cuddles up next to you, and the way you feel when you come in from the cold. It is looking into the eyes of someone and knowing that everything is going to be alright.  Pleasure is in the way things smell. The familiar smell of your lovers’ skin, the smell of a baby and that soft clean body in your arms, the smell of your favorite dinner in the oven, the way the air smells when leaves are burning, or just after a rain. 

Being loved by someone is the greatest pleasure of all. Those three simple words, “I love you”, whether they are from a lover, a friend, a child, a parent, a brother or sister, there is nothing that can compare to being loved. Love is a tapestry of everything and yet it is nothing if left unshared.

With love,
Your future grandmother

Happy Valentines’ Day, I hope you make the most wonderful tapestry to share with someone special. 

Revised from an earlier post of mine.


shelly said...

That was beautiful, Siv. Happy Valentines to you, too.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

That is wonderful, Siv!
I think many people believe love is a feeling, but love is an action and a commitment.

N. R. Williams said...

Hi Siv
So sweet. Online dating troubles me too. You don't know who you're going to meet. But I guess if you are on a legitimate site, it is safer than what many did in our youth. Bars. I never did that but knew many who did.

Loved your letter. Happy Valentines Day!

Krista M said...

That is beautiful. :)

The Golden Eagle said...

Wonderful letter. :)

Happy Valentine's Day!

Lynda R Young said...

Oh wow, what a beautiful letter!
Happy Valentine's Day :)

Susan Kane said...

A love letter to your unborn grandchild! That is the best letter of all!

Elisabeth Hirsch said...

That letter is absolutely beautiful! Well done :)

P. S. This line is awesome and so true: "Love is starting to look like fast food."

Geoff Maritz said...

Hmm, very nice all round.
Blessings Siv. Dating is horrible and grandchildren fantastic. Unfortunately parenting is hereditary, so if your parents didn't have children, chances are neither will you :)
Blessings my lovely friend, Geoff.

Anonymous said...

I totally agree. Young people look at marriage or relationships as if they are disposable. It amazes me. No I don't think they really know what love is. I think they know what passion is and mistake it for love. I really enjoyed that letter to your grandchild. It was beautiful.